It's Monday, Life Group night, our small group of friends come over to talk about life and the girls usually go to sleep about half way through. We've yet to see if it'll work, but we have high hopes. 4) Waiting the hour and a half for her to come out, then cheering and encouraging her that we've been waiting to play with her, thinking that she'll want the positive feedback.Īnd we finally think we've found a way to get rid of the game > After she's fallen into deep hibernation, we open the door and put the anti-slam foam on the top so she can't close the door and start the game back up.
3) Letting her stay in her room to see if she'll choose to come out. Half the time she'll close the door, stay in her room, and start crying. 2) Entering and saying, "Silly, you know you can come out" and leaving the door open. 1) Going in to affectionately tickle and kiss her till she awakes. We've tried many scenarios to figure out her emotional needs. I will even stay in my room so long that I pee my pants, start crying, and revert to an infant-like emotional state. Even when Sarah and JJ take naps in the same room, JJ will see Sarah awaken, get out of bed, leave the room, and close the door behind her, but JJ will still stay in her room.īut here's JJ's game: I'm going to forget the permission I have and stay closed up in my room, pretending or very really believing that I can't come out. Maybe it's something from her family life. Maybe it's something from her past foster placements.
Shoot the hostage free#
Sarah feels completely empowered and free to leave her room when she wakes up. It's tricky because there are contradictory views and they often have reasonable explanations for why their way is better.įor four months, we've been encouraging JJ that when she wakes up from naptime, she has permission to leave her room. We would really like to improve or be corrected if there are better ways. We are such newbies with this whole parenting thing and especially with parenting a child from neglect/trauma. If anyone has any better ideas for handling these situations PLEASE comment or email me. Unless you can find a clever way to shoot the hostage and get rid of the game. However, it seems like once that game gets started, it's really difficult to stop it. We're trying to avoid battles of will that result in win-lose or lose-win situations. Now, don't get us wrong, we're in no way saying that JJ is the bad guy or that we're going to shoot anybody, but recently, the metaphor has been helpful for us in trying to solve tricky situations. jeez."Then later, Keanu Reeve's character shoots his friend so the bad guy can't "play the game" anymore. Harry: "You are deeply nuts, you know that? 'Shoot the hostage'. Go for the good wound and he can't get to the plane with her. Gunman with one hostage, he's using her for cover, he's almost to the plane.
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